following dreams??

“Follow your dreams and don’t give up.”  Words we have heard all our lives.  “Keep trying and eventually you will get what you want.”  What a bunch of crap!  What are you supposed to do when the things you want are completely out of reach?  Are you supposed to keep dreaming and keep trying, all the while knowing your efforts are going to be fruitless?  Are you supposed to keep your hopes and expectations up so high that you are constantly let down?  “Don’t settle for anything less than what you absolutely want.”  First of all, how are you to know what you absolutely want if you don’t at least try other things first?  Take relationships for instance.  How are you to know the kind of friend or mate you want if you have no reference tools to use in the final decision making process?  And if you don’t choose to have friends or date, waiting for that “perfect” person to share your life with, aren’t you setting yourself up for a lonely existence?  You might as well sail to a deserted island and live the rest of your days alone.  How about getting your “dream job?”  I know what I would love to have as my ‘dream job’, but I know I’ll never attain it.  Sometimes you have to “settle.”  Sometimes you have to make the best of the situation and be happy.  It does no good to dwell on dreams that will never come true.